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Some people, regardless of what they lack—money, looks, or social connections—always radiate with energy and confidence. Even the most skeptical individuals find themselves enamored with these charming personalities.
These people are the life of every party. They’re the ones you turn to for help, advice, and companionship.
You just can’t get enough of them, and they leave you asking yourself, “What do they have that I don’t? What makes them so irresistible?”
The difference? Their sense of self-worth comes from within.
Irresistible people aren’t constantly searching for validation, because they’re confident enough to find it in themselves. There are certain habits they pursue every day to maintain this healthy perspective.
Since being irresistible isn’t the result of dumb luck, it’s time to study the habits of irresistible people so that you can use them to your benefit.
Get ready to say “hello” to a new, more irresistible you.
1. They Treat EVERYONE With Respect
Whether interacting with their biggest client or a server taking their drink order, irresistible people are unfailingly polite and respectful. They understand that—no matter how nice they are to the person they’re having lunch with—it’s all for naught if that person witnesses them behaving badly toward someone else. Irresistible people treat everyone with respect because they believe they’re no better than anyone else.
2. They Follow The Platinum Rule
The Golden Rule—treat others as you want to be treated—has a fatal flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same way. It ignores that people are motivated by vastly different things. One person loves public recognition, while another loathes being the center of attention.
The Platinum Rule—treat others as they want to be treated—corrects that flaw. Irresistible people are great at reading other people, and they adjust their behavior and style to make others feel comfortable.
3. They Ditch The Small Talk
There’s no surer way to prevent an emotional connection from forming during a conversation than by sticking to small talk. When you robotically approach people with small talk this puts their brains on autopilot and prevents them from having any real affinity for you. Irresistible people create connection and find depth even in short, every day conversations. Their genuine interest in other people makes it easy for them to ask good questions and relate what they’re told to other important facets of the speaker’s life.
4. They Focus On People More Than Anything Else
Irresistible people possess an authentic interest in those around them. As a result, they don’t spend much time thinking about themselves. They don’t obsess over how well they’re liked, because they’re too busy focusing on the people they’re with. It’s what makes their irresistibility seem so effortless.
To put this habit to work for you, try putting down the smart phone and focusing on the people you’re with. Focus on what they’re saying, not what your response will be, or how what they’re saying will affect you. When people tell you something about themselves, follow up with open-ended questions to draw them out even more.
5. They Don’t Try Too Hard
Irresistible people don’t dominate the conversation with stories about how smart and successful they are. It’s not that they’re resisting the urge to brag. The thought doesn’t even occur to them because they know how unlikeable people are who try too hard to get others to like them.
6. They Recognize The Difference Between Fact And Opinion
Irresistible people handle controversial topics and touchy subjects with grace and poise. They don’t shrink from sharing their opinions, but they make it clear that they’re opinions, not facts. Whether discussing global warming, politics, vaccine schedules, or GMO foods, irresistible people recognize that many people who are just as intelligent as they are see things differently.
7. They Are Authentic
Irresistible people are who they are. Nobody has to burn up energy or brainpower trying to guess their agenda or predict what they’ll do next. They do this because they know that no one likes a fake.
People gravitate toward authentic individuals because they know they can trust them. It’s easy to resist someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
8. They Have Integrity
People with high integrity are irresistible because they walk their talk, plain and simple. Integrity is a simple concept but a difficult thing to practice. To demonstrate integrity every day, irresistible people follow through, they avoid talking bad about other people, and they do the right thing, even when it hurts.
9. They Smile
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to find you irresistible, smile at them during conversations and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.
10. They Make An Effort To Look Their Best (Just Not Too Much Of An Effort)
There’s a massive difference between being presentable and being vain. Irresistible people understand that making an effort to look your best is comparable to cleaning your house before company comes—it’s a sign of respect for others. But once they’ve made themselves presentable, they stop thinking about it.
11. They Find Reasons To Love Life
Irresistible people are positive and passionate. They’re never bored, because they see life as an amazing adventure and approach it with a joy that other people want to be a part of.
It’s not that irresistible people don’t have problems—even big ones—but they approach problems as temporary obstacles, not inescapable fate. When things go wrong, they remind themselves that a bad day is just one day, and they keep hope that tomorrow or next week or next month will be better.
Bringing It All Together
Irresistible people did not have fairy godmothers hovering over their cribs. They’ve simply perfected certain appealing qualities and habits that anyone can adopt as their own.
They think about other people more than they think about themselves, and they make other people feel liked, respected, understood, and seen. Just remember: the more you focus on others, the more irresistible you’ll be.
What other qualities make people irresistible? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.
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Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book,Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart, the world’s leading provider of emotional intelligence tests and training, serving more than 75% of Fortune 500 companies. His bestselling books have been translated into 25 languages and are available in more than 150 countries. Dr. Bradberry has written for, or been covered by, Newsweek, TIME, BusinessWeek, Fortune, Forbes, Fast Company, Inc., USA Today, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, andThe Harvard Business Review.
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This is fantastic. Stop for 5 minutes today and watch this well made video.
A salute to all my Japanese friends. Respect !!!
On Saturday, Japan lost its first World Cup match with the Ivory Coast by 2-1. While that could have been a demoralizing start for most sports enthusiasts, a bunch of Japanese fans who attended the event at Arena Pernambuco in Recife, Brazil decided to respond with an unbelievably classy move: cleaning up the stadium.
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The moment you receive it, say:
Our Father who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name,
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven,
give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil,
for Thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory,
now and forever
GOD WANTED ME TO TELL YOU, it shall be well with you this coming year. No matter how much your enemies try this year, they will not succeed. You have been destined to make it and you shall surely achieve all your goals this year. For the remainder of 2014, all your agonies will be diverted and victory and prosperity will be incoming in abundance. Today, God has confirmed the end of your sufferings sorrows and pain because HE that sits on the throne has remembered you. He has taken away the hardships and given you JOY… He will never let you down.
I knocked at heaven’s door this morning, God asked me, My child! What can I do for you? And I said, ‘Father, please protect and bless the person reading this message.
It has never been broken. Within 48 hours send to family and friends, as many as you can ? God does know if you don’t have 20 people to send it to. It’s the effort and intent that counts. This is a powerful Prayer. Couldn’t hurt can only help…Let’s pray for one another, there’s no superstition involved here, we are just asking for Gods will to be done here on earth.
Welcome to 2014. Time to pick your ladder…
2013 finished off with new highs for most indexes and now we get to place our bets for 2014. Many indexes started lower with 1% discounts in the U.S. and 2-3% discounts overseas. With most portfolio managers on holiday or stuck in the cold weather, a truer picture of investor sentiment will be taken this week when everyone returns to the office. In looking thru the various markets, this weekend, most risk appetite measures remain in place for further interest in stocks. For my algorithms’ sake, I would prefer to see an increase in chop and volatility, but would guess that all pullbacks will remain short lived. We will start the Q4 earnings period this week and as usual, stock volatility will increase as companies beat and miss their expectations. This will be an interesting quarter to watch given that the S&P500 is +8% while earnings revisions have mostly been revised lower. So either analysts’ estimates are too pessimistic or companies are going to be missing earnings. We shall see. In the meantime, below are some interesting observations that hopefully will give you some added perspectives.
If you haven’t already, read Josh Brown’s weekend piece which includes many insightful thoughts going into 2014…
A new year has just begun, let’s get our bearings… This isn’t a post full of table-pounding predictions or forecasts, this is just me thinking out loud. In the first part, I’ll sum up the current environment as I see it. In the second part, I’ll talk about some possible scenarios for the coming year that, to me, would seem to be the most likely. In Part III I’ll bottom line it for you.
With 2013 in the record books, it’s time to look at the annual trends in Asset Class returns…
Also interesting, after 7 years of performance, U.S. Stocks, U.S. Treasuries, and U.S. Corporates have all returned the same +50%…
As explained in the item below, I’ve been thinking in seven-year periods lately, so I thought at the turn of the year I’d go back that far and see from where we have come. The three lines represent long Treasuries (TLT), corporate bonds (LQD), and stocks (SPY). I was going to use one of the big junk bond ETFs to show lower grade credit risks, but neither HYG or JNK was in existence at the end of 2006. (Think about that.) It is amazing that these three very different vehicles ended up on top of each other after seven years. Within 1.27%, to be exact. Seven years, three ways to get to the same place.
I continue to watch Treasury yields closely. Equities can absorb the slow glide higher, but a rocket move like May/June will again give stocks a pause…
The move higher in rates will be dictated by the rate of bond fund outflows…
and it would appear that outflows will continue as I hear few PMs/Strategists make the call to BUY longer duration fixed income.
A continued area of support for Equities is the ongoing appetite for Junk Bonds (which have continued even with the category’s outflows)…
Another big risk measure for the markets is the performance of Small v. Large Cap…
Typically Larger Caps have an edge in the Q4 and then Small Caps get it back in January and the Q1.
On the valuation side, average multiples are no longer cheap. So it will be up to earnings to help stocks deliver in 2014…
If you need a big barometer for the U.S. economy, look no further than Railroad Shipments which are on fire…
Weekly Rail Traffic finished 2013 on a high note. Looking at total 2013 Traffic, rail shipments grew +1.8% y/y which confirms a solid recovery. But if you exclude Coal (which is being substituted for Natural Gas), rail shipments grew +3.6% y/y which really is something to take notice of.
Investors are also waiting for the Capex Spending cycle to ramp. David Rosenberg thinks that it is on track to accelerate…
Finally, capital spending, which has been the most profound missing link, is now on track to accelerate since productivity growth is vanishing and Corporate America is realizing it had better do something about it. The age of the private-capital stock is the oldest it has been in nearly six decades, so the incentive is there to embark on a vigorous capex cycle. The ability is also there, given the record amount of cash sitting on business balance sheets (which, until recently, was being directed towards share buybacks and divided payouts rather than capital upgrades). The willingness is apparently there too, based on the outstanding November durables goods figures. Durable orders jumped 3.5% in November, almost double the average estimate, and durable shipments increased 1.8%. Core non-defence capital goods orders skyrocketed to 4.5% and many other data releases of late had upward revisions to October.
As for Cyclical stocks themselves, they continue to lead the markets higher…
Banks are a subset of the cyclical sector and they continue to have the wind at their backs with the steepening yield curve…
Remember that banks borrow short (deposits) and lend long (loans). So if the economy continues to ramp and cyclical spending picks up, companies will borrow and bank balance sheets will shift from low rate securities to high rate lendings.
Higher rates have hurt Housing stocks, until December…
Investors must be making a bet on housing demand accelerating in 2014 because a stronger economy will outweigh higher mortgage rates.
Are the big holders of Gold finished selling yet?
Gold is starting off 2014 with a bang. The metal is now -30% from its highs 24 months ago. If you think now is the time, look at Gold Miners (GDX) and watch all of their capital moves. If companies start selling/closing mines to buy back stock, the names could get interesting.
Another big trade potential will be the bounce in Emerging Markets…
Investors were continuing to sell into year-end, but at some point a rising U.S./Europe/Japan should benefit all countries’ economies.
Surprising to see that REITs are now so highly correlated with equities…
This makes it more difficult to get liquid diversification in Real Estate, but maybe better for investors if Equities gain while Bond Yields move higher.
And for those readers who invest in Residential Real Estate, here is Zillow’s 2014 ‘BUY’ list…
To determine which markets will be the hottest in 2014, we combined data on unemployment rates, population growth and the Zillow® Home Value Forecast. Markets determined to be ‘hot’ are characterized by lower than average unemployment, population growth of greater than 2 percent during the past two years and are forecasted to have home value growth of more than 2 percent during the next 12 months. The list is intended to give an early view into housing markets that are likely to experience heavy demand for homes, as well as increasing home values.
The #1 priority of Microsoft’s CEO-to-be…
By NPD’s tallies, Chromebooks accounted for 21% of all U.S. commercial notebook sales in 2013 through November, and 10% of all computers and tablets. Both shares were up massively from 2012; last year, Chromebooks accounted for an almost-invisible two-tenths of one percent of all computer and tablet sales.
One of the more amazing charts that I saw over the break…
Peter Thiel, Mark Cuban, Georgia Tech, Stanford, Coursera and many others are thinking big about how to bridge the gap between the costs and benefits of higher education…
We may eventually see the rise of “hoteling” for college students whose courses are done primarily online. Build a nice campus—or buy one, from a defunct traditional school—put in a lot of amenities, but don’t bother hiring faculty: Just bring in your courses online, with engineering from Georgia Tech, arts and literature from Yale, business from Stanford and so on. Hire some unemployed Ph.D.s as tutors (there will be plenty around, available at bargain-basement rates) and offer an unbundled experience. It’s a business model that just might work, especially in geographic locations students favor. Grand Cayman is awfully nice this time of year.
This Yale Bulldog/Nobel Laureate is not sitting idly either…
Nobel laureate Robert Shiller is getting a global classroom—and signing up tens of thousands of students around the world. The Yale economics professor’s “Financial Markets,” to be taught through the online education forum Coursera, is the most popular among hundreds of offerings for 2014, according to a Coursera representative. Professor Shiller, who has taught at Yale since 1982, has signed up 67,582 students for his online lectures, which will be webcast starting in February.
Home Depot gets innovative and no, you can’t buy this on Amazon…
Home Depot’s new Big Gripper all-purpose bucket is a handy improvement on the old school, five-gallon contractor pail. An ergonomic handle and patent pending “pocket grip” on the underside sets the product apart on the shelf, but more importantly, the design is a showpiece for a new approach to big box merchandising. Brick-and-mortar retailers have learned a lesson from Apple and are following their vertically integrated approach by developing high-quality, and exclusive, products to remain competitive in the age of Amazon. And they’re learning from another Apple trademark: revisiting product categories filled with bad offerings, and completely rethinking them.
Finally, it’s brutally cold out there. Follow Jimi’s lead and do anything to stay warm and be safe…
@HistoryInPics: Jimi Hendrix burns his guitar at the Monterey International Pop Festival, 1967
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